Too often the holidays are fraught with high expectations to which we respond with anxiety, sadness, irritability, or simply fatigue.  In order to experience something richer consider the purpose of this time; Perhaps it is God, your loved ones, or doing good for others in need.

Next, make a conscious effort to turn down the volume on what is external to this purpose and amplify  what you would like the focus to be.  Spend time with yourself and­­­­­ tend to that which is important.  Creating and practicing rituals helps us feel connected and keeps us in touch with what is truly important in our lives.  Ask yourself if there is a tradition you have experienced or even heard about that you want to bring into your space or share with others.  If none come to mind, consider listening to messages from nature, scripture, or others who grace your presence.  Children are wonderful at reminding us of the simple pleasures we often miss in our rush.  We just have to listen.  Perhaps, from now on, you end the Christmas morning gift exchange by adorning each other in recycled wrapping paper and bows to remind each other of the unique present each of us brings.  Maybe its reading a special scripture or spiritual story and allowing time for each individual to discuss what it means to them.

Too often we go through the motions of gift giving, cooking, or just doing too much overall.  Traditions are most meaningful  when we personalize them and tie them to the purpose in our lives.